Hey, can you help me move a piano?

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Years before the digital revolution where lightweight, portable electronic keyboards are now common, many of us have had large, and very heavy pianos in our house.

There was no way they could be moved by one individual, so the plea was made to family and friends for help.

I thought about this “getting help from friends” request  because I’ve run into several people lately that have been going through some very difficult, heavy times and when I’ve talked further with them about their experiences, they’ve commented back to me that they are not really close to anyone.  In the midst of being emotionally overwhelmed, they are having to make sense of a very difficult situation on their own.   I feel for them.  Not surprising to me is that each of the people I’ve talked to have been men.  Quite typically, as guys, we just have this “isolate ourselves from others” mentality.  It’s really not a good thing

Guys, that kind of mindset might work in the short-term, actually for years.  However, eventually, there will come a time of crisis where the load is just too heavy to handle on our own.  I’m mentioning this now  in hopes that if you are reading this post and  have no one else in your life that you can be utterly transparent with, I want to strongly encourage you to take a step of faith and try to connect with some other person, of the same gender and have someone to walk through life with you.

Over this past year, I’ve mentioned to you often in posts that I’ve created an app that is meant to not only help you identify your own personal goals,  but also in this app, there is a very cool feature.  It’s a dashboard that allows you to text or e-mail  a friend in a snapshot kind of way how you are doing in all the areas of your responsibilities.

I have used this Dashboard so often with others and found it to be incredibly helpful.   And when I see a “red” area in a friend’s text, we deal with it.   That’s what friends do for each other, right!

If you have been doing life alone, or you understand that a close friend of yours has been doing the “isolate” thing, let me encourage you to try this app.  Do it with a friend.

For less than a Starbucks special coffee, I truly believe you will not regret the cost of using this resource to help you and a friend share in the heavy lifting of life.

To check out the app:

You can visit  either the App Store (for IPhones)     https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.I

Google Play Store- https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.FoundationsLifeCoach.Foundations&hl=en ;
www.foundationslifecoach.com

 

 

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Take a chance on …

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Can you and I be honest with each other? Isn’t it a bit stressful always having to appear “on”?

Can’t you just imagine going to a party in casual clothes, or without makeup, or hair slightly out-of-place and seeing around the room, people looking at you and having the thought that they are probably talking about you?

Isn’t it hard just being you when you know deep down that if you appear to be not on your game, others will be critical of you?

What areas am I talking about?  How about?

* admitting at work that you made a mistake because you weren’t paying attention?

* being free to admit to extended family and friends that you are having some family problems and that there currently is a lot of strife in your house

* being able to admit to others that you really don’t know what you want to do with the rest of your life?

* being able to admit to others that you have fears about your future, including your health and financial issues

* being able to admit that you might have an addiction issue to pornography, gambling, food, shopping, hoarding, etc.

When we really don’t have the freedom to be honest with others (and ourself), we pursue having a good appearance so that no one suspects we might be having struggles.  We stress over keeping secrets.

Keeping on an appearance that you have it all together all the time can be exhausting (and definitely untrue). It also can be very confusing for your closest friends and family that one day hear of you having big-time struggles and you never mentioned any of it.  It gets them wondering about how close your relationship really is.  That can lead to your problems expanding to include these bruised relationships.

So, maybe its time to take a chance and turn the corner to being free.

Find a close friend and open up to them about the concerns you have been suppressing.  My guess it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest. I believe you will also be strengthened knowing that you have support from a friend.

I’m sure there are friends and family around you that would love the opportunity to shoulder your burdens along with you.  Give them a chance.