How you can be a better “matchmaker” kind of friend…


Picture this scene: you are sitting in your living room, enjoying a relaxing evening at home.  Then, for some reason, your mind races to your day at the office.

Your mind then thinks about an e-mail that got sent out from your HR department with a listing of currently available job openings that they are looking for help to fill.  You think to yourself that was kind of weird–that thought popping into your head.  Anyway, the thought goes away and you go back to relaxing and enjoying your evening.

About an hour later, a friend knocks on your door.  Its been a while since you last saw your buddy and wonder what’s been going on in his life. Soon, he begins to share with you that he is out of work, needing a job.  Your mind races back to the thought of the e-mail with  job postings that was sent out by your HR department earlier in the day.

You continue to listen to your friend share his struggles and then you hear yourself say the following words, “good luck.”    Seriously?  Is that the best you got?

I understand that for many people saying “good luck” is a socially acceptable nice thing to say, but you know what,  for the person to whom you say those words to, it really leaves them  with a cold and pretty impotent kind of comfort.

I’m speaking now to all of us who are Christians, who believe in the reality of a living and loving God and have a personal relationship with Him through faith in Jesus Christ.   Let me remind all of us that we have access to the throne of grace.   The Bible says, ” So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”  (Heb. 4:16-NLT).

To your friend, you have the awesome privilege to listen to the concerns on their heart and then you have the opportunity to suggest,  “how about we take your concerns to Almighty God and let Him deal with them?”

I believe your friend would be extremely grateful to you for bringing them this help.  I believe they would find great encouragement and comfort in your gesture of prayer.

In fact, just today, I had a co-worker express to me a health concern she was having.  She was full of anxiety because of some tests she had to take. As she was getting ready to leave my office, I could almost hear the words “well, good luck” forming in my mind.  Fortunately, I stopped those words from leaving my mouth and I asked her if I could pray for her.  She said “yes” very enthusiastically.

We then prayed. When I looked up I was struck by the visible change in her countenance.  She was smiling.  She expressed her gratefulness that I would pray for her.  It was almost like some kind of weight was lifted from her.   It was so encouraging to see God comfort and encourage her so quickly.

Friends of this blog, if you are a Christian, let me encourage you when the opportunities arise  – be bold and play the role of a matchmaker.  Connect people who share a concern with you with a living and loving God who longs to be asked to be a part of the solution.  Give Him the opportunity to show that He is a good, God.