The other day I took a test. It was one of those personality tests you take when you go on a job interview (although I’m not currently looking for a job). One of the questions was “when you do an activity, do you always seek to win?” I said yes. (probably not a surprise for those who know me).
However, this post is not really about being #1 when you play a game, its more about a mindset. When I’m talking about “winning”, I’m actually talking about an acronym, W.I.N.—what’s important now?.
I didn’t come up with it, but read it back a few months ago from some coach, and it has stayed with me, ever since. In fact, I have it on my phone as a daily reminder to help me strive to be all there in each and every moment. The idea is when I am doing something, I need to intentionally put aside all those other things that are screaming for my attention. I need to discipline my mind to not dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future, but living in the moment (though with a foundation based on an eternal mindset). As the Bible says, “wisdom is in the presence of the one who has understanding”.
I believe that sheer excellence is not possible when multi-tasking key activities. I need to try doing better at being all there, one activity at a time.
At work, if I am going to give my employer my best, then I need to limit my mind from wandering with thoughts about my personal life. I need to concentrate at the job at hand.
I know I can do much better at being all there when I’m in a conversation with someone. I can listen better and pay more attention to what the other person is saying (and not saying) and how they are saying things. I can also do better at trying to communicate more clearly.
Let me give you another example, driving. Seriously, how hard is actually driving a car? Not so much, right? Then why are there so many accidents? It’s because people (myself included) do not do consistently well at asking the question, “what’s important now?” and following through with it.
When you or I are driving, we should be focused on our car, the driving conditions, drivers around us, etc. We should try not to be distracted by being on our phone, putting on our make up, reading the paper (that was the reason for one of my previous accidents), petting the dog on our lap, etc. Yet, over and over, you and I (I know I do) fail to ask, “What’s Important Now?” and live by it.
I drive about 40 minutes each way to and from work–80 minutes a day. Well, yesterday, I wasn’t far from home when I heard the sound of an incoming text message. For some reason, I thought it was my wife asking if I would get pizza on the way home. To me, pizza is a high priority 🙂
So, what did I do, I picked up my phone, which was on the passenger seat to see who the text was from. When I looked up, only 1-2 seconds later (this is out of 80 minutes a day of driving), I realized I was in a bad situation, the car in front of me was stopped. AHHHHH!
Fortunately, I am still experiencing the consequences of a gift from my kids (driving a Lamborghini), so I slammed on the brake and swerved to avoid hitting anyone. I was very fortunate. Thank you God and your angels!
“Wisdom is in the presence of the one who has understanding”.
This post was meant mostly to myself as a reminder and hopefully, there are one or two of you out there who will also benefit from it.
Be in the moment. This holiday weekend, in each and every activity you do, be all there. Ask yourself and carry out your answers to “What’s Important Now?”
Enjoy each and every conversation you are in with someone.
Enjoy seeing and feeling all that is around you when you go for a walk.
Enjoy the indescribable gift it is to have a personal relationship with God.
Enjoy the blessing it is to have a house to live in, food on your table, clothes on your back.
Enjoy the blessing of living in this country and for those who served and gave their lives so that we can live in freedom.
Enjoy this Memorial Day weekend!