Its hard to believe, another Summer is nearly over. Time just seems to move along so quickly.
Those of you who are goal-oriented individuals, you know who you are, you are going to relate well to this post. You are the type of person that will see a problem that needs attention and quickly a picture will develop in your mind so that you get a vision of bringing solutions to resolve the issue.
Once your mind sees the finish line, the bread crumbs of steps seems to materialize in your brain, so that a road map occurs that lines up what mini-goals you need to accomplish, in order to complete the end goal. The world needs people like you to provide leadership.
In addition to receiving the vision of how to get things done, the goal-oriented individual is energized by checking off each mini-goal along the way. endorphins in the brain produce happy feelings.
I share this description of a goal-oriented person from personal experience. I am a goal-oriented person. If this describes you, as well, let me give you a caution though that you will battle, as I do too, all the time.
Let me illustrate my point in all this by having you think of a couple of dancing. They are enjoying the music. They are enjoying each other. They know how to dance, so they are comfortable as they glide in unity across the dance floor. It’s a beautiful, romantic vision of two people in the moment.
This dancing scene describes well the person bent on living with goals. They embrace their goals. They live with them always on their mind. They glide through life having direction for where they will move and how they will move. Life, like the music at the dance hall has a rhythm to it and they enjoy their dance with their “having goals” partner. Can you relate to that?
BUT, ….. what happens when you get tapped on the shoulder, and someone says to you, “Excuse me, can I cut in with your partner for this dance?”
NOW YOUR PLANS HAVE CHANGED. THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU EXPECTED. WHAT WILL YOU DO NOW? HOW SHOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT WHAT JUST HAPPENED? DID YOU DO SOMETHING WRONG? IS THIS A THREAT? WHAT WILL YOU DO NOW THAT YOUR EMBRACING YOUR GOALS HAS BEEN TEMPORARILY SET ASIDE?
Can you relate to the change in the mindset of the person whose plans were just changed without his permission?
I think this is how life is. We have our goals in how we want to live our life. We feel comfortable being in control of our movements and our abilities, but then, as so often happens, things change in our life. New, unexpected things happen in our circumstances that break up the way we were dancing through life. At least for the moment, we are asked to deal with a new circumstance.
How can you deal with that? Here are a few suggestions:
- recognize that this is a common experience for us all. As much as we hate to admit it, we are not in control in our lives. We can’t control the weather or how other people will respond to us, or the unexpected health situation, etc. However, we can control how we will react in every circumstance in our lives.
- I don’t know of anyone who does not like to be in control, so how do you handle that feeling of insecurity that comes when life happens to you and your plans for living life get interrupted? Understand that God is faithful. He will not allow you to be overcome by ANYTHING that He will not help you endure through. Count on it. Although the way of healing or calm might not be a quick fix, He will be there with you every step of the way and give you His amazing grace to help you persevere. There is always hope!
- recognize the opportunities that come with being stretched. I believe over the years, regrettably, I have missed out on many opportunities for personal growth, and the chance to help someone in need around me, but because I so firmly had my “goal-focused” glasses on, all I could think of was myself. My obsession with meeting my own goals blinded me to many missed opportunities around me. Maybe your new circumstances might just be a good thing—embrace it!
- So, although I totally believe having goals is vital to personal and organizational success, I am also beginning to recognize that when the unexpected happens in life (like someone wanting to cut in and dance with my partner), I need to ask questions like, “what can I learn from this new development?” or “how can I take advantage of this new situation to enjoy and benefit from it?” or “Lord, what are you trying to teach me through these new circumstances in my life?”
That’s it for now. I delayed getting some things done this morning to write this post, so now I’m back to dancing with my goals partner! 🙂
Picture this story:
A middle-aged man, driving in his luxury car, pulls around the corner of the street where he lives. He looks at the houses of his neighbors and thinks to himself that at some time he should probably get to know them. Actually, he thinks to himself that in some ways it’s surprising that after 20 years in this neighborhood, he would have by now.
Down the driveway he goes admiring his beautiful landscaping and thinks to himself that he has hired a quality service to handle this tedious work. As he gets out of his car and make the long walk to his really large house, which he never seems to tire of gawking at, he finds himself huffing and puffing a bit more than usual. He also notices his chest puffing out as he congratulates himself pridefully, for all the efforts he has put in: the long hours worked and the many, many business trips he has taken.
As he walks in the house, the one thing that seems the most noticeable is the silence. His wife and two children are nowhere to be seen. “Quietness”, he thinks, “is in some ways nice, but in other ways, it’s so depressing”.
So, what is the point to this story? Its this perspective about success.
After reading through this story would you say this man is successful? Some would, actually many would. Why would we say that? It’s because he drives a luxurious house, owns a large house, and uses a landscaping service.
Outwardly, this man has some very nice things. Let me be the first to say that there is nothing wrong with owning and enjoying nice things. God has given us those things to enjoy.
My point is to question this man’s perspective on their importance and what he was willing to sacrifice to get them. It’s that perspective of success that I so desperately want to keep wrestling with for myself and I would encourage you to battle along with me.
Why? Too often, we can see someone on tv that has all the wealthy merit badges of life: the nice cars, the trophy wife, the big house, etc. and something can stir in my heart: jealousy and envy. I know I have those feelings. Too quickly, I find myself trying to justify why I’m still okay with my pauper existence compared to this wealthy person I’ve just been watching and hearing about.
The issue of jealousy and envy is my own problem no one else’s. I’m needing to deal with that on a regular basis. But the focus of this post is not really about my challenges with envy, or pride, or a critique on enjoying and striving for nice things.
It’s about striving for success in one area. Whether it’s an over-emphasis on being successful at work, or at your church, or with your family, or with your personal health, my plea with you this morning is to be careful about over-emphasizing one area of your life so much that without realizing it, you inadvertently are neglecting other areas of your life.
Life is difficult. It’s really hard. You don’t need to be reminded of that, but you may need to be reminded that there are seven areas of responsibility in your life. How are you doing in each of them? When is the last time you took the time to evaluate how you’re doing?
I would like to encourage you this weekend to take just a few minutes and review these seven areas of responsibility in your life and ask two questions: “How am I doing in each specific area?” and “In what ways can I do just a little bit better?”
Oh, one last thing—you might be wondering why do this personal inventory? The simple reason is that your life impacts others in every one of these seven areas. Do you know that?
Like a person who is a sleepwalker, taking actual steps, but not even recognizing where they are going, some times, I can be living my life (and maybe you do too) where I’m doing life in certain, dazed kind of way, not even recognizing those areas of responsibility that I am tuned out of, totally neglecting….and that will cause regrets, painful ones. I want to help you avoid those.
As a way to further help you strive for excellence in all areas of your life so that you live a life without regrets, I’d like to encourage you to consider the content of this post, but also to consider downloading the Foundations Life Management app in I-Tunes, (Android calls it Foundations Life Coach) that has the red, yellow, green dashboard like above. For the price of a cup of coffee (and more significant and lasting positive consequences) from it, I believe you will be pleased that you took this minimal risk:
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Are you open to receiving encouragement and support from others?
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We’ll meet Wednesdays from 6:30-8:30 p.m., starting September 13th, at Harvest Bible Chapel on Randall Road in Elgin.
Let me encourage you to take a step of faith to finding hope. THINGS CAN CHANGE!
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Looking out at the ocean, my mind was filled with wonder. So much water. It just went on and on until the horizon–such an incredible a sight. On top of the awe I felt in looking out over this marvel of creation, I found myself also basking in the warmth of the sun, and the almost perfect temperature balance of the cool water on my toes.
Suddenly, my dreamlike experience was interrupted by some commotion further down on the beach. “What was going on?” I wondered. As I got closer, I could see that a crowd had built up around a bunch of kids playing at a sandcastle. Their laughing, smiling, and energy was bringing joy to everyone admiring them.
But, just to be clear, this was no ordinary sandcastle. This thing was so big, there were rooms in it. The kids also built some tunnels that they were able to pass some of their toys through. Wow! One of the fathers was also playing with the kids because I believe it was his idea that had conceived the suctioning of water from the ocean through some kind of contraption that the kids could then use to soak each other (and imaginary armies attacking their castle). It was an incredible sight to behold.
Now here’s the point to me telling you this story—-it’s just a story.
Actually, I’ve been thinking about this story for the past couple of weeks because I think that’s how life is. Stay with me on this.
In this story, the kids (and the father), as well as the onlookers were having fun. They were enjoying themselves and that is a good thing. Life should be like that. I hope you are enjoying your life because whether it’s with amazing sights of creation to behold, or amazing foods that dazzle your taste buds, or fragrances that make your nose come alive, or any other experience in life that invigorate our senses, all of us should find pleasure in living life.
But, with that said, there is a need for balance to just enjoying the individual moments of life and that is perspective. The reality is that when the tide rises, the sandcastle in this story will be destroyed and be no more. Just like that, the dream will be over.
Life is like that too. How much longer will you live before the high tide of life comes in? 40 years, 20 years, 5 more years, 1 more year; 30 more minutes?—none of us know, but the certainty is there. Then, what?
My friend, I apologize if you were looking for a fun, little post about kids on beaches, and then got whiplash to thinking about “deep things”.
To be honest though, my heart seems pretty heavy these days as I’ve perceived people getting overly focused BUILDING SAND CASTLES. In what they talk about, what I see their time being spent on, etc., it all seems to be focused on the here and now. Just to be overly communicative, I believe life should be enjoyed. Personally, I am finding greater and greater appreciation for every day I have and the sights and sounds that make up my days.
But, something inside of me, blares out through posts like this one to encourage others not only seek to enjoy life now, but to prepare yourself for the eventual day when this life is over for you and the next life begins.
Have you given that any thought lately?
For some, they have never thought about life beyond their time now on the beach building bigger, and cooler sand castles, If that is you, let me encourage you to pause from your beach building and consider your unworthiness to stand before the holy God who created the vast ocean next to your little project. Before Him, you, like I am, are unworthy. The Bible says we are all sinners, and all we deserve is separation, death, and judgement. Instead, this gracious, and loving God offers us forgiveness and mercy. What He offers to all who will accept this free gift is His kindness. Have you accepted His generous gift made possible by the death of Jesus Christ, and His resurrection?
For others, you accepted His gift a while ago, but you have gotten so distracted by building sand castles that you have lost perspective. You have been so captivated by building the coolest sandcastle that you have made this the priority in your life. You spend extra resources on your project. You talk with others about their sand castles to get ideas on how to improve yours. You tend to do a lot of looking at others to judge your own to improve your feelings of importance.
If that describes you, you need to look beyond your sand castle to the ocean behind it. Let me encourage you to once again consider the awesomeness of the One who created that vast ocean in front of you and Who has made a provision for you to come to know Him (as you once did). You need to get perspective to remember this bigger picture of life. Yes, we are to enjoy each and every day, but we are also to live with eternity in mind and prioritize our behaviors now based on that eternal perspective.
How are you living your life, my friend? Are you able to not only enjoy your sandcastle, but the Creator of the ocean behind it?
My apologies, in advance, for the long set up on this, but I think its really important that you “get it” as to my focus in writing today’s post—its about “being ready”.
Think about the confidence you have when you have prepared for every possible scenario you can think of for the upcoming meeting. How much more likely will there be a positive outcome at that meeting?
Think about the confidence you will have to face your opponent this weekend after an in-depth week of studying film and multiple practices designed to take advantage of your team’s strengths, and your opponent’s weaknesses. How much more likely will there be a positive outcome for your team at this weekend’s game?
Last one, this evening, you are going to have a talk with a friend over a very troubling matter that has brought tension to your relationship for many months. Tonight will be a time for you to hopefully work through it with this person. How much more likely will there be a positive outcome for you if you prepare your heart and mind to what you need to say, and how you should say those things?
The common issues in all these three of these scenarios is that preparing ourselves ahead of time will increase our chances of success. Who doesn’t want success? We all do, but how many of us are willing to do the things we need to ahead of time (I’m talking putting in hard work, establishing good habits, and making adjustments) and then follow through with those practices to experience, over time–some kind of victory?
All these thoughts come to mind after reading the book, “Sleep Smarter” by Shawn Stevenson. There are some books that I’ll work my way through. The read is fairly enjoyable, enough to hold my interest, but I need to labor through. This was not one of those books. It ranks up there with books like “Creativity, Inc.” by Ed Catmull, Patrick Lencioni books, or “Winning” by Jack Welch. I couldn’t wait to read this book. I was absorbed in it.
I have heard that sleep is important, just like I understand that exercise and eating fruits and vegetables are also important. However, this book blew me away with its thoroughness on bringing up data to support sleep’s importance. I wasn’t aware that having a better diet affected the quality of my sleep, or putting away electronic devices can help me have a better night’s rest, that good sex can help me have a better sleep, that waking up early can help me sleep better, etc.
I also appreciated Shawn’s presentation of his content. I never felt like I was a child being scolded and admonished about getting more sleep. Rather, I felt like I was being coached by someone who cares for me and wants me to be successful. Making adjustments in my life to get better sleep, I’m now convinced, will help me enjoy a better life.
Without a doubt, this is a book, I would highly recommend reading.
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“What are we going to do today?”
I’ve been asked that question by my kids on weekends, and on vacations (and you probably have as well). It’s a great question for a number of reasons.
For one, they are looking to me to give them direction to what we’re going to do?
Another reason is that it shows they want to be with me. They are wondering what we are going to do together.
Another reason is that there something adventurous in the question. Its like there is something unexpected, something exciting awaits for us to discover.
“What are we going to do today?”
In kind of an interesting twist to that question, I actually found myself being asked by the Holy Spirit that very question the other day when I woke up.
I’m aware that the Holy Spirit miraculously lives within me as a follower of Jesus Christ.
I’m aware that He wants to counsel me, comfort me, advise me, convict me, re-assure me, inspire me, and so much more. He is there all the time doing life with me (how awesome, right!)
I was kind of startled by that question I received from Him because it challenged me. Was I going to be living my life that day looking to Him to be a kind of genie fulfilling every selfish desire I have (I know those requests will not get answered as I want (James 4:1-3)?
So, what did I want to do today? Well, I think the question was a good one to lead me to the understanding that I did not want to do anything that the Holy Spirit was not directing me. I wanted to seek to be a follower of Him, rather than me taking the lead and seeking to fulfill my desires (Romans 8:5-8, Galatians 5:16-25).
I felt very confident and contented knowing that those who come to Him must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder for those who seek Him–Hebrews 11:6.
So, “what are we going to do today?” was I turned back on God.
I want Him to give me direction.
I want to do life with Him.
I want to live my life as an adventure (believing that He is able to do far more abundantly than all I could ask for or imagine for His glory)
What are you going to do today?