Get ready to go to bed! —“Sleep Smarter” book review

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My apologies, in advance, for the long set up on this, but I think its really important that you “get it” as to my focus in writing today’s post—its about “being ready”.

Think about the confidence you have when you have prepared for every possible scenario you can think of  for the upcoming meeting.  How much more likely will there be a positive outcome at that meeting?

Think about the confidence you will have to face your opponent this weekend after an in-depth week of studying film and  multiple practices designed to take advantage of your team’s strengths, and your opponent’s weaknesses.  How much more likely will there be a positive outcome for your team at this weekend’s game?

Last one, this evening, you are going to have a talk with a friend over a very troubling matter that has brought tension to your relationship for many months.  Tonight will be a time for you to hopefully work through it with this person.  How much more likely will there be a positive outcome for you if you prepare your heart and mind to what you need to say, and how you should say those things?

The common issues in all these three of these scenarios is that preparing ourselves ahead of time will increase our chances of success.  Who doesn’t want success?  We all do, but how many of us are willing to do the things we need to ahead of time (I’m talking putting in hard work, establishing good habits, and making adjustments) and then follow through with those practices to experience, over time–some kind of victory?

All these thoughts come to mind after reading the book, “Sleep Smarter” by Shawn Stevenson.  There are some books that I’ll work my way through.  The read is fairly enjoyable, enough to hold my interest, but I need to labor through.  This was not one of those books.  It ranks up there with books like “Creativity, Inc.” by Ed Catmull, Patrick Lencioni books, or “Winning” by Jack Welch.  I couldn’t wait to read this book.  I was absorbed in it.

I have heard that sleep is important, just like I understand that exercise and eating fruits and vegetables are also important.  However, this book blew me away with its thoroughness on bringing up data to support sleep’s importance.  I wasn’t aware that having a better diet affected the quality of my sleep, or putting away electronic devices can help me have a better night’s rest, that good sex can help me have a better sleep, that waking up early can help me sleep better, etc.

I also appreciated Shawn’s presentation of his content.  I never felt like I was a child being scolded and admonished about getting more sleep.  Rather, I felt like I was being coached by someone who cares for me and wants me to be successful.  Making adjustments in my life to get better sleep, I’m now convinced, will help me enjoy a better life.

Without a doubt, this is a book, I would highly recommend reading.

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As a help to being your best in the area of Personal Health, please check out my Life Management App and consider using it with a friend:

You can visit either the App Store (for IPhones) Foundations Life Management app for IPhone devices

https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.I

or go to the Google Play Store- https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.FoundationsLifeCoach.Foundations&hl=en

 

Wise words from YODA

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I won’t embarrass or frustrate any one I personally know on this one, but there are some individuals, I can see their faces now that if they say they will do something, I know it will be done. I can just count on them. Their word is gold.

Unfortunately, I also know some others that if they tell me they will do something, I have a great uncertainty it will get done (if ever). These individuals are so frustrating because they are so unfaithful. It drives me crazy.

“Do, or do not.  There is no “try”.    a quote from Yoda to Luke Skywalker.

I love these words from the fictional character, YODA (he is fictional, right?) because they speak of resolve and commitment.  It’s an “all-in” mindset that if I say I will do something, it will get done.

How well does this describe you?

Does your word matter?

Maybe it’s because I’m a goal-oriented person, but I love this saying from Yoda because it conveys to me the idea of vision and priorities.  It challenges me to set my mind on accomplishing something to experience some desired result.

But it takes it one step further.  What Yoda’s quote suggests to me is even something more than just wanting to see a completed goal because any one can wish for good things to happen in their life.  Can’t you?  If you were to take just a few minutes to look at all the things going on in your life, can’t you just imagine improvements or desirable things to make your life better?

Of course you can.  I can too.  But what Yoda’s quote says to me is that besides seeing a vision of good things, it conveys to me the issue of setting priorities and being intentional.  It means moving beyond vision and mere talking about accomplishing some desired result one day (just “trying” in a “whatever” kind of attitude”) to the idea of commitment –I’m going to make adjustments in my life to make this happen.  I love that resolve.

So, my friend, are you willing right now to listen to the advice of a little, green person and stop saying “I’ll try….” to “I will …” ?

Are you willing to start getting very purposeful about accomplishing the things that are most dear to your heart?

“Do, or do not.  There is no “try”.

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As a further help to you in striving for excellence and being intentional about meeting your goals in life,  please check out my Foundations Life Management app (and do it with a friend):

(If you have downloaded the app and are using it, I would so appreciate you telling a friend (s) about it.)

You can visit either the App Store (for IPhones) Foundations Life Management app for IPhone devices

https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.I

or go to the Google Play Store- https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.FoundationsLifeCoach.Foundations&hl=en

 

“Are you really giving your ….?”

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One of the fascinating things I enjoy about being a reader is the common things that tend to surface.  For instance, hard work, having a “serving others first” mentality,  and perseverance are just some that come to mind.
Another great lesson that is often seen in great leadership is to emphasize focusing on the job at hand (our responsibilities), rather than on results.  Too often, whether it’s on a sports team, or a business there can be such a focus on short-term results that excellence and long term health are sacrificed, often at great peril. Do the right thing–today!
With that in mind, I love this quote from John Wooden, hall of fame coach with UCLA’s men’s basketball program:
“STRIVE to always  bring a winning  attitude and steady effort to practice and competition. Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result  of self-satisfaction in knowing  you made the effort to do your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming”.
Get the idea here?  If you are doing all you are capable of doing, what more can be expected of you?  Regardless of what others might think, you have the peaceful satisfaction of knowing you gave it your all.   The challenge for each of us though is, are we giving it our all?   Are you really giving your best to become the best you ?
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As a help to being your best, please check out my Life Management App and consider using it with a friend:

You can visit either the App Store (for IPhones) Foundations Life Management app for IPhone devices

https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.I

or go to the Google Play Store- https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.FoundationsLifeCoach.Foundations&hl=en

going through challenges–get in a small group and lead by your mind, not your…

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Currently, I am involved as a leader in a soul care/Hope Group kind of volunteering effort at my church.  I understand groups like this are popping up all over.  Maybe you are involved, even right now in one.

The idea is to come together for a period of time with a small group of people, say weekly for 1-4 months and learn together principles to help shed light on gaining a healthy perspective dealing with conflict and root issues of our problems.  These groups  offer encouragement, support, and accountability to the weekly attendees.  Personally, I have benefitted so much personally, just my involvement in this ministry over the past few years.

For those currently in groups like this, or even to those who are going through a time of difficulty let me encourage you to keep just a few things in mind:

  • realistically, your area of hardship will not go away overnight–adjust your expectations on when things will get better
  • wishing your situation will get better on its own without any changes by you will just not happen
  • Try to get an understanding on how your behavior needs to change (avoid the mindset of “well, they need to change also…”)–do what you need to do to improve
  • it’s all about making consistently the right choices–learn what are the right choices to make and why and then strive to make adjustments in your life to do them>>>>>>make the right choices because you know mentally it is the best thing to do, even though you might not feel like it…Lead by your mind, not your emotions
  • as hard as it might be if you are going through a tough time and want to see the day when everything is all better—-turn away your thoughts from the future and FOCUS on today.  What “details” of your attitudes, actions, and motives do you need to get consistently better at?   If you persevere in a continuous improvement mindset, the results you long to see happen have a greater chance of coming true.

 

Glimpses of Hope began to Displace the Depression

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Who doesn’t want to live a life of “no regrets”?

Who doesn’t want to get better in all the areas of their responsibilities?

My passion is to help people be their best.  I’ve created an app (the Foundations Life Management app) that helps a person create goals and monitor their progress.

In addition, by using the Dashboard option, a person can easily text their results to a friend who can offer  encouragement, accountability, prayer, and support.

 

Here are two Dashboard screens that a friend of mine, who I meet with, sent to me to show me his progress:

This is how my friend initially evaluated how he was doing in all his areas of responsibilities: (notice the concerning “red” areas that were causing him much turmoil and depressing thoughts):

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Using the app as a resource to help me encourage my friend as we met, this is how he evaluated his progress in our most recent time together: (notice the movement from the red (concerning issues) to the yellow (okay, but in maintenance mode):   As a side note, his enthusiasm in seeing his progress was tangible.

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Coaching (mentoring)  is about relationship and helping another person make progress.

If you haven’t already, let me encourage you to check out this app, and try it with a friend to see progress occur in both your lives.

If you have downloaded the app and are using it, I would so appreciate you telling a friend (s) about it.

You can visit either the App Store (for IPhones) Foundations Life Management app for IPhone devices

https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.I

or go to the Google Play Store- https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.FoundationsLifeCoach.Foundations&hl=en

If you have any questions about the app, please just let me know.

Blessings.

Walter

A crucial hidden truth of leadership is…

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The bottom line for leaders is they want to lead well and want to produce victories. Whether it’s in sports, or business, or in the arts, leaders want their teams to be successful.

Because of that desire to “win”, the truth is that a leader might not really like a person, or people on their team, but are willing to tolerate them because of their talent.

So, what does that mean for you and I?  First of all, it means, as I mention so often in these posts, always try to be your best. Don’t worry about what’s in your future, but concentrate on being your best in all you do—today!  With that “continuous improvement” mindset , whether it’s in business, or personally, you will be amazed at the doors of opportunity that will open up for you in the future, as leaders look for people who have the abilities to solve their problems and help them achieve successes.

Second of all, as your talent improves in whatever area you’re concentrating, you do not have permission to act like a jerk.  Yeah, your skill level will open doors of opportunity, but understand that people will only go so far in their desire to win.   If your personal morals, or personality are so “over the top” offensive, you will be asked to leave the team because the annoyance and frustration of working alongside you outweighs the positive feelings that come from team success.

Let me share a story with you that illustrates this principle of people overlooking their own hesitance with liking a person, but seeking that talented person out to help them with their difficulties.

There once was a man named Jephthah.  He was the son of a woman who was not his dad’s wife.   As he got older, his half-brothers, the sons born to his father and his father’s wife, basically turned on Jephthah (as well as the elders in the community), and kicked him out of their town because of Jephthah’s illegitimate birth.

However, Jephthah was a mighty warrior and developed quite a reputation for his battlefield successes. As years went on, Jephthah’s home town, Gilead was being attacked. The leaders of the community realized the weaknesses in their defense and in desperation sought out Jephthah to be their military leader and to help them defend their town.  It seems like the people in Gilead were willing to put aside their previous criticisms of Jephthah because of their desperation for his help with their current problem.  Jephthah told them if they would accept him back in to their community he would help them. The town’s leaders accepted his offer and Jephthah, did in fact lead them to victory.

So, to summarize the heart of this post, it’s this:  First of all, your character matters in all you do. Please don’t limit any opportunities you have because of offensive things you do to alienate others.  Second of all, strive to be your best and fight the urge to want “success” now. Continue to be the very best you can be.  Rather than focusing your energies in dreaming of the future, concentrate on developing your skills, and trust that in time,  the opportunities will find you.  I believe they will.

Note:  The story of Jephthah is told in “The Book of Judges”- chapter 11 (in the Bible)

spectacular achievement is always preceded by …

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I believe we all have had, some time in our lives, these two experiences.

In one situation, whether its taking a test, or giving a speech, we come into it, unprepared.  For whatever reason, we didn’t prepare and we go into that event nervous, stressed, and not confident.  We knew we blew it and we can just hope we can wing it, well enough to get by.

In the other situation, again, whether its taking a test, or giving a speech, we go into it well-prepared.  We almost go in with a cockiness because we know our stuff.  We are at ease, almost anxious, and definitely feeling like “we got this”.

What’s the obvious difference–it’s the preparation that was put in.

To me this subject of being prepared is one of the most powerful activities leading to success and the applications for it are almost limitless.  Sure there are the tests, and speeches, but what about anticipating how you will act when you walk in the doors of your home after a long day at work.  Will you take your work troubles home with you or will you be able to leave it at the door, so that you can concentrate on the needs and opportunities of your family.

What about doing your preparation work before you start a home project that you don’t have to run back to the store mid-way through your work?

What about preparing a personal budget ahead of time so that when you near the end of the month, you are not caught up in that awful feeling that you have no more money to pay the monthly bills?

Think about your life—this day, in what areas of your life can you do a better job at preparation?

“spectacular  achievement  is always preceded by spectacular  preparation”       Robert H. Schuller