Are you wanting more Balance in your life, here’s an app to help

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I’m excited.

As readers of this blog know, I am all about managing my life’s responsibilities and helping others understand the benefit of having this focus as well.

With the help of many people, I’ve created an app that will help you with your life management.  It can be fun and effective AND is something you can do with a close friend .

There is a cost to it, but please keep in mind, there is also a cost we pay when we neglect being intentional about striving for excellence in all areas of our responsibilities.

You can visit   either the App Store (for IPhones)     Foundations Life Management app for Iphone devices
https://appsto.re/us/ejC7fb.i

or go to the Google Play Store (for Android devices in the Health & Fitness category) to find Foundations Life Management and look for the Foundations logo
Enjoy!
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I want you to be a “W.I.N. ner ” — do you want to know how?

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Acronyms are helpful.  In an abbreviated way, they remind us of a bigger concept.  For example, if someone says to you that they want this project turned in “A.S.A.P. ” you know that they want you to make this a priority.  They want it done as soon as possible.

If someone sends you a text that has “LOL”  they are really conveying “laugh out loud”.

Well, I just came across in the excellent book by Greg McKeown called “essentialism” another acronym  that has such a powerful life-changing insight to it.  “W.I.N.”  This is an acronym   that was used by Larry Gelwix at Highland High School. He was a person who knew what winning was about.  He coached his rugby team to 418 wins (only 10 losses and 20 national championships.  Yeah, I would say this man knew what winning was all about.

However, when it came time to drilling into his players the need to “W.I.N.”, it wasn’t so much about what was showing up on the scoreboard as much as the need to always be asking and executing on “What’s Important Now?”  Isn’t that brilliant?

Think about how life-transforming it would be if you lived in the moment.  That means not dwelling on the past and all that has taken place with you, and to you, and by you.  It means not getting stressed out about the “what-if”s that could happen tomorrow.  It means being 100% in the moment.

I love that.  That means when I’m talking with a friend, I need to be listening to what they are saying, to what they are not saying, watching how they say it.  I need to concentrate on them, not letting my mind race to some event that I’m planning on going to later in the day, or looking at the new text on my phone, or even thinking ahead about what I want to say to them. I need to be in moment, listening to them.

When I’m involved at work-same thing. I need to be concentrating on my responsibilities, striving to do my job with excellence.  That means, I should be doing my work, but thinking about how unfair it is that I have to do this job right now because my boss asked me to do it, or thinking about asking my boss to take time off, or thinking about how I’m going to get my son to soccer practice tonight after work.  It means being in the moment, 100% there.

I love that.

Let me encourage you to strive to live a life where you constantly “W.I.N.?”   Live in the moment.  (just a sidenote:  “living in the moment”, is far different from “living for the moment”, but I’ll save that for another post)

Do you catch yourself wanting ….

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More and More, and more….

I don’t know about you, but I feel at times an overwhelming pressure to keep accumulating.  Whether its knowledge, or “collections’ or more gadgets and upgrades, I feel the urge to get more.   Do you ever feel the same?

However, in my desire for contentment,  I’m growing in the realization that my thirst for more will never be quenched.

With these thoughts in mind, I came across this quote  from Lao-tzu that seemed to speak to this truth.

“To attain knowledge add things every day.  To attain wisdom subtract  things every day.”

I thought that to be pretty profound.

To conclude this thought, three conclusions come to mind:

  1. like an addict not satisfied with his current fix, wanting a more intense and lasting “rush”,   I must continue to live with the understanding that more stuff  is not the answer)……to help me in this, I must give myself some “investigative” reflective times to evaluate where are those areas where I’m looking to acquire
  2. Eliminating my crutch on things is a good direction for me and the banner of “striving to live simply” is one worth pursuing
  3. Lastly, I want to be a man of integrity so that what I say is what I do.  When I say Biblical verses like “whom have I in Heaven but you?  And there is nothing I desire on earth as much as you.  My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever  (Ps. 73:25-26-esv), I want to be determined to say, “yeah, that is how I am. I don’t desire anything more than my relationship with You, God.  Bottom line, “You are all I need!  Everything else is just filler!”               How about you my friend, are you seeking to acquire more and more (of whatever) or are looking to focus on what is really essential in life?  

Are you able to “retire” at the top of your game because you …

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For those who have read my posts, you’ll be aware that I often use insights taken from people’s lives, especially sports’ celebrities to make a point. Typically the lesson has to do with reinforcing my beliefs in taking responsibility for our lives and making decisions based on a long-term perspective, rather than enjoying a short-term benefit.

Well, here’s another treasure of a story.  This one is from the life of Sandy Koufax.  During the last four years of his baseball career, some would consider him the greatest pitcher of all time.  For those who don’t know him,  here is a little bio taken from Wiki-pedia:

“Sanford “Sandy” Koufax (/ˈkfæks/; born Sanford Braun; December 30, 1935) is a former American Major League Baseball (MLB) left-handed pitcher. He pitched 12 seasons for the Brooklyn/Los Angeles Dodgers, from 1955 to 1966. Koufax, at age 36 in 1972, became the youngest player ever elected to the Baseball Hall of Fame.[1]

Koufax’s career peaked with a run of six outstanding years from 1961 to 1966, before arthritis in his left elbow ended his career prematurely at age 30. He was an All-Star for six seasons[2] and was the National League‘s Most Valuable Player in 1963. He won three Cy Young Awards in 1963, 1965, and 1966, by unanimous votes, making him the first three-time Cy Young winner in baseball history and the only one to win three times when one overall award was given for all of major league baseball instead of one award for each league. Koufax also won the NL Triple Crown for pitchers those same three years by leading the NL in wins, strikeouts, and earned run average.[3][4][5][6]

Koufax was the first major league pitcher to pitch four no-hitters and the eighth pitcher to pitch a perfect game in baseball history”

 

The point in bringing up all these impressive stats is that Sandy Koufax retired from baseball in 1966 at the very top of his game, results-wise.  However,  his success came with a great physical cost. He was taking cortisone shots every other ballgame. He had constant stomach aches from the pain pills he was needing to take.  He had a deep concern about how long he would even be able to have use of his arm.

The following excerpt came from a press conference he gave announcing his retirement:
One reporter asked Sandy,  “what is your thought about the loss of income?”
“well, the loss of income, alright,  let’s put it this way, if there was a man who did not have use of one of his arms and you told him it would cost a lot of money and he could buy back that use,  he’d give him every dime he had.  I believe that’s my feeling.  And in a sense, maybe this is what I’m doing. I don’t know.
I’ve got a lot of years to live after baseball and I’d like to live them with complete use of my body.  I don’t regret one minute of the last twelve years and I think I would regret one year that was too many.”
Although Sandy Koufax was enjoying earthly success at the moment, he was able to move beyond all the trappings of his current success to see a long-term perspective.  Because of that perspective, he made adjustments.   He made sacrifices in his current situation to live a life without regrets later in his life.
I believe there might be some who read this post that are also currently enjoying much worldly success. In fact, you might not even be aware of how well you are really doing, that in earthly terms.  Right now, you have your health, you have many, many comforts in this world (more than most), but you have paid a price for that success and you are right now at the point of decision.
Like the animated “munching-machine” in Pac-Man, you can continue your intense striving for more, or like Sandy Koufax, you can courageously say, “I am at a point of success of which I’m grateful, but I need to think of the long-term (to live a life without regrets).
Just asking:
– has your zeal to be successful damaged relationships in your family that now need to be reconciled (or developed)?
– has your single-minded focus on earthly success caused you to neglect the spiritual side of life –seeking a relationship with God?
– has your “all-out” pursuit to be successful caused you to form bad health habits (little exercise, poor diet, living with stress, lack of sleep)?
Maybe its time you call a meeting with those who follow you to say you are retiring from your pursuits to take care of yourself and make some adjustments.
Are you able to “retire” at the top of your game because you can think long-term and are ready to make some adjustments in your life?

I”m going to do it…I’m going to talk about …

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I’m going to do it. I’m going to talk about …

Politics and Religion. It seems like from the days of being young adults, we are taught not to talk about these two divisive topics, but I’m going to anyway, but you might not like my perspective.

I’ve been wondering, why are these two subjects so taboo to talk about?

I believe it has to do at its core with the fact that we are all basically self-centered. We all are. It’s who we are by nature.

Regarding politics:

I have my preferences with candidates
I have a preferred party
I have important issues that are important to me
I have a vision for the priorities I think are important for our country
I have strong feelings about Supreme Court justices and how they should make their decisions

Do you see a common pattern? It’s all about my belief system. I look at politics from the filter of “I” …… and so do you.

We do the same with laws.  We all look at current and pending legislation from the perspective of how it affects me, or if it is morally in line with my belief system. Because I matter so much to myself, I am passionate about me …. and again, so are you.

So, what tends to happen when politics comes up in a conversation, often the battle lines are drawn with each person trying to dominate the other person with their viewpoint. Battles rarely end up without bloodshed, wound, and insults.  Rarely have I seen a person putting aside their viewpoint, to better understand another’s viewpoint.

Religion is much the same when it comes to our public discourse. One person promotes their beliefs, and the other person defends and promotes theirs.

So, where am I going with this post?

It’s this: without humility and a willingness to listen to someone else with respect, we not only deprive our self of a more complete (and accurate) perspective on complicated subjects, but we also greatly impede the progress we could be making in those areas if we would work together.

Several months ago, I was the foreman of a jury. We were asked to give a verdict on seven indictments against an individual. It was a brutal experience having to sit as judge over someone and have to determine whether or not they would be going to jail for many years and also to exercise some sort of justice for the victim. There was so much evidence to get my head around and then, filter that evidence to how the laws were to be understood.

As we, the jury were deliberating, I found myself greatly helped by the opinions of the other eleven jurors. There were many times, I thought to myself, “I never looked at it from that point of view”. Although I came in to the jury deliberation with some pretty firm opinions on how I would vote, by the time we, the jury, collectively made our decisions, I found that I had changed my mind on several of the indictments.

Together as a team we made, I believe decisions that were the most thorough and just.

As a country, we need to come together in a similar way and listen to the opinions of each other. It will not be easy and we will still disagree many times, but the decisions we are needing to make in this country affect us all and the only way we will make progress is by working together. It’s time!

Let me encourage you to try something. Let me encourage you to stretch yourself beyond what you may feel comfortable doing:

-try to be less vocal about your opinions

-understand that you might not be 100% right-on about your views (can you believe that?)
– try to ask more questions to others who have different opinions than you, be a learner
-try to listen more intently to others who are different than you are
– strive to respect others more passionately–all the time (you can respect the person, although you may not agree with their opinions)

It’s time!

2016 top ten posts – #2 – “You are an IDIOT! …. you voted for … “

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#2 posts of 2016 top-ten

“YOU ARE AN IDIOT!   How could you have voted for …?  Did you know that they said __________ and did ________?”

Most likely, the person that was just dissed is not going to take that kind of lack of respect for their opinions ! They will come back with a pretty testy response back.  Back and forth, the heated exchange will go.
Then, somewhere in the conversation, the thought will come to you that since you are a Christian and they are not, you should talk to them about Jesus.  Seriously now, how receptive do you think they are going to be to what you have to say?  You just called them an IDIOT!  Where is your love?
Christian brothers and sisters, I have seen recent social media posts that people have called others “idiots” for wanting to vote for ______.  However, judging by the passion in their posts, I question if they are as concerned right now for the other person’s eternal salvation.   Ultimately, what is really of importance, here?
PERSPECTIVE,  Christian brothers and sisters, we all need to have PERSPECTIVE.  As a side note, if you are really open to hearing this,  it might be a good time to reflect on your own passions—are they really where they should be—just asking!
There is no problem preferring and voting for a certain candidate or party. We live in a democracy and we all have the right and privilege to vote how we want.  However, friends, please keep in mind the very important need to be a respectful of all people–ALL the time.
Regarding the unfolding of earthly events, trust in the Sovereign plan of Almighty God all the while doing your part in being a good citizen now, AND understanding that there is such a bigger election in front of each of us all the time, an eternal one. Will we each choose to be reconciled to a God who loves you by believing that Jesus Christ died for us, even though we are unworthy sinners?
That’s a choice, I’m willing to lovingly work to get out that vote.  How about you?