Influencers, do you realize that …

Standard

In the busyness of our lives, it seems too common to always be looking ahead and thinking about the things we need to do, or the goals we have, or on things that are worrying us.  However, I would like to encourage us to keep in mind something, really important that I pray we never lose sight of—-as influencers (whether it’s at work, church, or in our homes), we influence others.  How we behave matters to those who look us for guidance.  Our employees, or members of our church, or our children probably won’t verbalize that they look to us as a role model, but they do.   So how intentional are you in being careful to act wisely in front of your “followers”?  How careful are you to avoid living in a way that can be harmful to your followers if they proceed carelessly in this lifestyle not having the same constraints or maturity you have?

With this thought of our influence on others, I wanted to pass along this excerpt from an outstanding book, “The Intangibles of Leadership” by Richard A. Davis, PhD:

“When Albert Bandura , Stanford University’s famed psychologist, realized that children learn more from observing  others in action  than anything else, he changed the  face of psychology forever.  It all started when he put a bunch of kids in a room and asked them to play with whatever toy they wanted, in whatever way they wanted.  Then, and adult came in and proceeded  to savagely knock around one of the toys, a blow-up Bobo doll (you know, the kind that never fall down).  When  the adult  left the room, it turned out that  the kids inevitably   took some swipes  at the doll too.    The children Bandura  observed weren’t  necessarily persuaded   to act in a certain way by being told   to act that way- or even,  to Bandura’s surprise, by being positively   reinforced for it.   They were most influenced  by just seeing   someone else act a certain way or perform a certain task, whether that person  was actually trying to model behavior or not.   They mimicked adult behavior  regardless of whether it was consistent  with what the adults  were telling them to do. This, Bandura said, is how we learn behavior.  Bobo doll experiment

For most people, their parents  provide a convenient example for understanding Bandura’s theory.   Think about your politics for a moment. Are they similar  to your father’s?  For most people, they are.  But this doesn’t mean your dad sat you down every night  and explained his political  views to you.  It means that, whether you were consciously  absorbing it or not at the time, you heard him discussing world events, commenting on issues of the day, making pronouncements at the dinner table about this bill, that government, or whatshisname who just got elected to office and how in the world  did such a putz ever get enough votes  he’ll never know.  In other words, your dad directly  or indirectly, taught you politics.

 

Lastly, let me encourage you influencers to intentionally reflect on your interactions with others these past few days.  How did you come across to them?  Were you opinionated before them, or were you asking questions of them and listening to their thoughts?

Were you patient?

Were you angry?

What did you express your views about?

Was your time rushed because you are so busy doing your work that you have little time for relationships?

How encouraging were you?

How discouraging were you?

Take the time to evaluate your behaviors and how others might perceive your actions and attitudes.  I believe it might be eye-opening for you, as it has been for me.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s