Can you and I be honest with each other? Isn’t it a bit stressful always having to appear “on”?
Can’t you just imagine going to a party in casual clothes, or without makeup, or hair slightly out-of-place and seeing around the room, people looking at you and having the thought that they are probably talking about you?
Isn’t it hard just being you when you know deep down that if you appear to be not on your game, others will be critical of you?
What areas am I talking about? How about?
* admitting at work that you made a mistake because you weren’t paying attention?
* being free to admit to extended family and friends that you are having some family problems and that there currently is a lot of strife in your house
* being able to admit to others that you really don’t know what you want to do with the rest of your life?
* being able to admit to others that you have fears about your future, including your health and financial issues
* being able to admit that you might have an addiction issue to pornography, gambling, food, shopping, hoarding, etc.
When we really don’t have the freedom to be honest with others (and ourself), we pursue having a good appearance so that no one suspects we might be having struggles. We stress over keeping secrets.
Keeping on an appearance that you have it all together all the time can be exhausting (and definitely untrue). It also can be very confusing for your closest friends and family that one day hear of you having big-time struggles and you never mentioned any of it. It gets them wondering about how close your relationship really is. That can lead to your problems expanding to include these bruised relationships.
So, maybe its time to take a chance and turn the corner to being free.
Find a close friend and open up to them about the concerns you have been suppressing. My guess it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest. I believe you will also be strengthened knowing that you have support from a friend.
I’m sure there are friends and family around you that would love the opportunity to shoulder your burdens along with you. Give them a chance.