Take the time to ask questsions–you might be surprised by what you hear

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Why don’t we take the time to ask more and better questions of people. Most often, it is because we assume we know what they mean, but too often we are wrong. We really don’t know what they were thinking, feeling, experiencing, etc.

Take the time to ask someone non-assumptive questions to keep things clear with others and avoid misunderstanding.

Repeat back to them your understanding of what they are saying to see if you are tracking with them.
Clarify terms they are using that might be fuzzy to you
Ask them when it is appropriate to use specific examples

There are few things that show as great of love AND respect for someone else then by taking the time to really listen to them, ask clarifying questions, and seeking to fully understand their thoughts.

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One thought on “Take the time to ask questsions–you might be surprised by what you hear

  1. This idea of clarifying the way we communicate with each other is so smart. It reminds me of an essay I read in Paul Adren’s book “It’s not who good you are. . .” Different words mean different things to people and sometimes we have to say it more than once in more than one way to really get our point across. Happy to have found your blog. Great thoughts here.

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