Why don’t we take the time to ask more and better questions of people. Most often, it is because we assume we know what they mean, but too often we are wrong. We really don’t know what they were thinking, feeling, experiencing, etc.
Take the time to ask someone non-assumptive questions to keep things clear with others and avoid misunderstanding.
Repeat back to them your understanding of what they are saying to see if you are tracking with them.
Clarify terms they are using that might be fuzzy to you
Ask them when it is appropriate to use specific examples
There are few things that show as great of love AND respect for someone else then by taking the time to really listen to them, ask clarifying questions, and seeking to fully understand their thoughts.